Learning, Tools & Support for Adults Supporting Children

Practical learning, resources and in-the-moment support for foster parents, kinship parents, supported lodgings, schools, social workers and residential teams.

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£20 per Foster Parent
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Supports Key Ofsted & CIW Expectations

Ofsted’s Social Care Common Inspection Framework highlights that parents can only support children well when they are given the right time, resources, and guidance.

The Academy helps agencies demonstrate that carers are supported with practical learning, tools, and guidance that strengthen everyday care.

Aligned With National Minimum Standards

Standards 20 and 30 of the National Minimum Standards require agencies to ensure foster and kinship parents have access to high-quality learning and development.

Our trauma-informed learning, tools, and guidance help carers build the skills and understanding they need to meet children’s emotional and behavioural needs.

Strengthens Evidence for Inspection

During inspection, Ofsted considers how well foster parents are prepared and supported.

The Academy provides agencies with a clear, accessible way to evidence structured support, ongoing learning, and practical development opportunities for parents and carers.

Practical Tools That Improve Daily Care

Our approach focuses on real-life strategies, emotional understanding, and therapeutic responses that parents can use in the moment.

This helps carers feel more confident and capable during challenging moments, contributing to the positive outcomes inspectors look for.

Designed by people with lived experience

The Academy was created by foster parents who understand the realities of supporting children through trauma, loss, instability and change. Content is rooted in real-life experience and the challenges adults face every day.

Shaped by experts and practitioners

The Academy is informed by foster parents, therapists, educators, social workers and sector specialists. This helps ensure learning remains practical, relevant and grounded in real-world experience.

Practice-led learning, not generic training

Learning is designed to support parents, carers and professionals in real situations, helping them make better decisions, build stronger relationships and respond with greater confidence.

Designed for immediate use in real life

Each course and tool is designed to help adults know what to do today, not just what to understand in theory. Practical guidance supports decision-making in homes, schools and care settings.

Mapped to recognised standards and best practice

Learning is aligned to fostering standards, safeguarding expectations and recognised good practice. This helps organisations evidence learning while keeping the focus on real-world impact.

Recognised as CPD activity

Learners can download certificates showing course titles and learning duration, helping organisations record professional development and evidence ongoing learning.

Built using award winning learning design

The Academy combines lived experience with over 25 years of professional learning design expertise, creating learning that is engaging, accessible and effective for busy adults.

Built with the sector, not in isolation

The Academy continues to evolve through partnerships with fostering services, local authorities, schools and practitioners, helping ensure content reflects the realities of frontline practice.

Tailored to different roles

The same core principles apply across fostering, kinship care, education, residential care and supported lodgings. Learning adapts through role-specific examples, scenarios and guidance that reflect the realities of each setting.

in-the-moment support

Our Companion Apps

Designed specifically for foster parents, kinship parents, residential staff, supported lodgings hosts, teachers and other adults supporting children who have experienced trauma, it provides a private space to reflect, recognise early warning signs, access regulation tools, and create a simple support plan.

The app isn't about diagnosis or judgement. It's about helping you pause, notice what you may be carrying, and identify practical steps that can help when you're feeling stretched, overwhelmed or simply in need of a moment to regroup.

Understanding Kinship Care: Insights from the Handle With Care Report, 2025

Lovely to hear Kinship voices. It’s lovely to hear a good explanation of kinship. A lot of people have never heard of Kinship before.

Safeguarding in Foster and Kinship Care

Absolutely brilliant, I thoroughly enjoyed it.

This was one of the best on-line safeguarding courses I have attended. The mix of direct discussion with course trainer teamed with interactive questions, use of informative short videos and exceptional links to sites that can provide you with practical advice and tools is fantastic.

I've been a social worker for 22 years and have taken helpful links and strategies that I will use in my everyday practice.

So simple to follow, thought provoking and kept my interest throughout. I didn't find myself feeling frustrated or telling myself "I already know this and have heard it all before".

Podcast: Children in Care & Lying

Loved that it was brief but really explained well the reasons behind lying. Breaking it down has helped me understand why a child may be lying and how we can move forward together therapeutically.

Creating a Healing Home: Becoming the Calm Anchor

So simple to follow. The 10 steps are great and not difficult to put in place and achieve. I love the way that it gives clear outcomes and advice on children who maybe reluctant to engage too. Love this.

Shame in Traumatised Children

We have received so much training in PACE over our fostering career but this is the first course which has directly linked shame as the primary emotion driving most of our three girls’ behaviours so thank you for giving such a clear, concise explanation.

Toxic Masculinity and the Manosphere

Great course and good insight into what children and young people have to navigate in a modern online world on a daily basis.

Sibling Rivalry & Trauma

Simple, straightforward and PACE based advice. All of the scenarios were so relatable. Resources are brilliant and will be so useful, without being tricky or expensive to source. I love the modelled 'script' approach which provides useful phrases when things escalate.

Podcast: Children in Care & Lying

It opened my eyes to Therapeutic parenting and opened my mind to PACE.

Creating Consequences That Teach, Not Punish

Very good course! You put across the point about achieving the natural way to set consequences in a child friendly way.

I liked the three R’s and the way to put it into a table. This shows how well it can work with the young person.

When Children Have Lived with Domestic Abuse

Thank you, really useful bite-sized course. These are always helpful to consolidate knowledge.

Podcast: Children in Care & Lying

It opened my eyes to Therapeutic parenting and opened my mind to PACE.

Podcast: PACE, DDP & the Five Pearls

Very well put together course. Easy to follow and understand despite the amount of information; explanations about earlier life traumas children carry within, and the therapeutic manner, DDP and PACE, foster carers can adopt to help children and young people learn self-regulation and improve their self- esteem.

The Academy, under the company name 'Pink Pearl Consulting Limited' has achieved the government-backed Cyber Essentials Certification.

Children in foster care don’t usually lie in the way adults think of lying – not with the cold calculation of a fraudster in a Netflix documentary. More often it’s a kind of survival tactic, almost automatic. Trauma specialists even talk about it as a “fourth F.” You’ve heard of fight, flight, freeze… well, lying becomes another option. Not to get one over on you, but to dodge the sting of shame, or the dread of being punished, or simply the awful feeling of being powerless.

That’s where the Curiosity Lens comes in. Imagine putting on a pair of invisible glasses or holding up a magnifying glass. Instead of seeing the fib at face value, you start to see what’s underneath it – the fear of rejection, the nervous energy, the shame the child doesn’t know how to name. With PACE in mind – curiosity and acceptance especially – you suspend the moral outrage, the urge to shout “just tell me the truth,” and you lean in gently instead.

It’s not about catching them out. It’s about keeping the conversation alive. As one parenting guide wisely put it: stay exploratory, keep wondering aloud. If you shame them, they’ll close the door. If you stay curious, they might just leave it ajar.

And when you respond with genuine interest – “I wonder what made it hard to tell me…” – you send a message that’s bigger than any single lie: I’m not here to trap you, or humiliate you. I’m here to understand you. That, over time, is how trust grows. They learn you’ll meet their honesty with compassion, not punishment. And that changes everything.

“Hmm, that’s an interesting story you’ve told me. I wonder if maybe it feels safer to say that than what really happened? If you’re worried about getting in trouble, you don’t have to be – you are safe with me. Whatever happened, we can sort it out together. Can you help me understand what’s going on?”

(This phrasing invites the child to explain, without outright accusing them of lying. It uses "I wonder" instead of "You’re lying", signalling curiosity. You might even playfully put on “magic truth glasses” with your fingers, if age-appropriate, to lighten the moment and show the child they’re not angry.)

Many children in care carry a kind of hidden script in their heads. It says: I am bad. It’s my fault. They don’t usually say it out loud, but it’s there, humming away. It comes from years of early hurt, of being rejected again and again. Some even learn that if they show real feelings – sadness, anger, longing – it might lead to punishment, or worse, abandonment. So they tuck those feelings away, and the shame festers.

This is where the Acceptance Shield comes in. It’s less superhero cape, more everyday armour. You hold it up, deliberately and consistently, to protect the child from those shame-arrows. It means making a very clear distinction: I don’t always like your behaviour, but I always accept you.

In PACE terms, it’s acceptance and empathy working in tandem. You meet the child’s feelings as they are, even the messy ones. You empathise with the shame they’re drowning in. And practically, it means tempering your own response. No harsh telling-off. No thunderous disappointment. Instead: “You’re not a bad kid. I get why this happened. And I still care about you.”

Because here’s the thing: children watch closely for whether their inner world is safe with you. If you counter their self-criticism – “I’m stupid, I’m bad” – with calm, believable truths – “You’re good, you’re worthy” – you’re teaching them a new script. One where they’re not discarded for messing up. One where they’re covered.

And when you hold that shield day after day, the child starts to believe it. Their sense of self stitches back together. They start to grow resilience against shame and rejection. And in that, the bond between you becomes their secure base – something solid, at last, in a life that’s often felt shaky.

“I know you feel really bad about this. It’s okay – we all make mistakes, but I want you to hear this: I’m not angry and I’m not leaving. I love you no matter what. Nothing will change that. Let’s figure out how to make it right together when you’re ready.”

(This script explicitly assures the child of your enduring acceptance. Phrases like “no matter what” and “nothing will change that” directly address fear of rejection. You might literally open your arms like a shield or put an arm around the child if appropriate, to physically reinforce the feeling of protection and safety.)

Defiance in children can feel like a brick wall. They cross their arms, scowl, and say “No!” with the kind of finality usually reserved for magistrates. And you feel that surge of frustration rising – the urge to push back harder. But there’s another option.

The Playful Pause is about puncturing that tense balloon with a bit of silliness. A ridiculous face. A pretend dragon lurking in the room. A mock-serious “emergency” about socks refusing to cooperate. It sounds daft, and in a way it is. But daftness is often what works.

The magic of playfulness is that it pauses the power struggle. It shifts the dynamic from “me against you” to “me with you.” For a younger child, it might be full-on theatrics. For a teenager, maybe a raised eyebrow and a wry, self-deprecating joke. Either way, it says: I’m not your enemy. We can reset this together.

It doesn’t mean ignoring the behaviour. It just means you’re smart enough to know that humour can sneak past defences that sternness never will. And once you’ve both laughed, even a little, the wall crumbles. Suddenly there’s room to carry on. Together.

In a mock-serious narrator voice: “Oh no... the Defiance Dragon has entered the room! It’s making us both all grumpy. Quick, I have an idea – I’ll make a funny face to scare it off… 😜 See, the dragon is laughing! Can you give it a try? [Child pulls a face] Hooray, we scared it away together!” (Both laugh, tension breaks) “Alright, shall we give (the task) another go now?”

In this playful script, you create a tiny imaginative game (“Defiance Dragon”) to externalise the child’s defiance as something we can team up against playfully. The exact script can vary widely by age (for a teenager, humour might be more understated, like you suddenly doing a goofy dance and saying “Ugh, what a morning – shall we hit reset and start over?” with a grin). The essence is to surprise the child out of the stuck position with levity. Your willingness to be a bit silly shows the child it’s safe to drop their guard. Once the child smiles or giggles, even briefly, the emotional climate shifts – we (you and the child) are connected again, and the task or issue can often be revisited with less resistance.

When a child withdraws – shuts the bedroom door, curls up silent on the bed – it’s tempting to take it personally. To knock loudly, or to storm off yourself. But here’s the truth: often what’s happening is less about you and more about the child drowning in feelings they can’t quite put words to. Shame, sadness, fear.

The Empathy Bridge is about reaching across that gap. Not forcing them to talk, not demanding eye contact, but sending a quiet signal: I see you. I understand. And I’m here. Maybe it’s a few calm words through the door. Maybe it’s leaving a note or a favourite snack outside. Maybe it’s just sitting nearby, available.

The visual is a bridge of hearts or hands. You stand on your side, they on theirs. And you extend something across – empathy – so when they’re ready, they can walk back over. The bridge is patient. It doesn’t collapse if they don’t use it straight away.

This says to the child: Even if you push me away, I won’t give up on you. And in time, that’s how trust is built. They learn that silence won’t scare you off. That feelings won’t break the relationship. And that you are a steady presence on the far side of the cliff, always waiting, always ready to welcome them back.

(You speak through the door or next to the withdrawn child, calmly and kindly): “I know it’s been a really upsetting day. If I were you, I might want to hide under the covers too. Just wanted to say I understand why you feel that way, and it’s alright. I’m here whenever you feel like talking or even if you just want a hug. Take your time – I’m not going anywhere.”

(In this script, you're naming and normalising the child’s likely feelings, showing empathy: “I’d feel the same if I were in your shoes.” There’s also an explicit assurance of presence: “I’m here… I’m not going anywhere,” which is crucial for a child worried about being given up on. The tone is gentle, not demanding a response. You might sit quietly nearby, or leave a soft toy or drawing materials as an invitation. The child then knows the bridge is there whenever they are ready to cross back into interaction. Even if the child doesn’t respond immediately, such messages sink in and over time the child will trust that the carer truly cares and empathises with them.)

Learning, Tools & Support for Adults Supporting Children

Trusted By Parents & Fostering Organisations

£20 per Foster Parentor Kinship Carer

How the Academy Supports Good Ofsted & CIW Outcomes

Supports Key Ofsted & CIW Expectations

Aligned With National Minimum Standards

Strengthens Evidence for Inspection

Practical Tools That Improve Daily Care

Practice-Led Standards that Matter in Fostering

What Makes the Academy Different

Designed by people with lived experience

Shaped by experts and practitioners

Practice-led learning, not generic training

Designed for immediate use in real life

Mapped to recognised standards and best practice

Recognised as CPD activity

Built using award winning learning design

Built with the sector, not in isolation

Tailored to different roles

Our Companion Apps

Carrying Weight

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Steady Ground

Right Now

Safe Pause

Pocket Wise

What Parents & Professionals Say

Understanding Kinship Care: Insights from the Handle With Care Report, 2025

Safeguarding in Foster and Kinship Care

Podcast: Children in Care & Lying

Creating a Healing Home: Becoming the Calm Anchor

Shame in Traumatised Children

Toxic Masculinity and the Manosphere

Sibling Rivalry & Trauma

Podcast: Children in Care & Lying

Creating Consequences That Teach, Not Punish

When Children Have Lived with Domestic Abuse

Podcast: Children in Care & Lying

Podcast: PACE, DDP & the Five Pearls

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