Attachment & Children in Care

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  • Length: 30 minutes

Course Overview

Attachment. It’s one of those words that gets thrown around a lot in foster care, but what does it actually mean? And more importantly—how do you help a child who’s learned that adults aren’t to be trusted?

In this podcast, we dig into the messy, sometimes heart-breaking world of attachment struggles in children who’ve experienced trauma.

We’ll unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface, explore why traditional parenting often falls flat, and share practical, therapeutic strategies that actually help.

No jargon. No fluff. Just real, honest insights into building trust with children who need it most.

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Another great short course that opens your eyes into attachment, how things may happen and how children may behave or respond.
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Certification Included

If you're a foster carer or other professional working with children, this certificate is a record of your Continuous Professional Development (CPD). 

CPD Minutes: 30
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Recommended Reading and Resources

"Fight, flight, freeze, and fibbing: Lying as a trauma-based behaviour" by Noel Macnamara

Lying isn’t always about deception—it can be a survival mechanism. The article delves into the idea that, beyond the usual fight, flight, or freeze responses, there’s a fourth F: fibbing. For traumatised children, lying isn’t about mischief. It’s about fear. A shield against danger. A way to stay safe.

"5 Reasons Why Children with Complex Trauma Lie" by Stable Moments

Lying, for children with complex trauma, isn’t about deception—it’s about survival. A shield against punishment. A way to control an unpredictable world. Sometimes, reality itself is blurred. The article explores how trauma rewires truth, making lying less a choice and more a reflex, born from fear, not dishonesty.

"AST A Guide to Allegations" by Foster Talk

Allegations—every foster carer’s worst nightmare. The article unpacks why they happen, from trauma to misplaced hopes, and how even false claims can upend lives. It urges carers to document everything, know the system, and seek support. Because in fostering, even the best intentions can land you in murky waters.

"How to Respond When Our Children's Memories are Wrong" by Debbie Ausburn

Children’s memories can be astonishingly wrong—yet utterly real to them. The article explores why this happens, urging parents to respond with empathy, not correction. It’s not lying, just how the brain works. Instead of arguing facts, the key is understanding: in memory, truth is often stranger than fiction.

"What Drives False Memories in Psychopathology? A Case for Associative Activation" by Henry Otgaar et al.

Trauma reshapes memory, sometimes distorting it. The study explores how PTSD, depression, and past trauma make people more susceptible to false memories—especially emotional ones. Neutral facts? Less so. The implications are vast, from therapy to the courtroom, where memory isn’t just unreliable—it’s malleable, bending under the weight of experience.

"Maltreatment increases spontaneous false memories but decreases suggestion‐induced false memories in children" by Henry Otgaar et al.

Maltreated children: paradoxically, they conjure more false memories spontaneously yet resist suggestion-induced ones. This study reveals that trauma's shadow warps memory's fabric, making the mind both a trickster and a fortress. In the courtroom, such nuances can tilt the scales of justice.

"Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy: Building Trust in Our Relationships with Children" by Foster & Adoptive Care Coalition

Building trust with traumatized children requires a PACE approach: Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy. This method fosters safety and connection, essential for healing. Traditional parenting often falls short with these children; instead, embracing PACE offers a compassionate path to understanding and bonding. 

"PACE: A Trauma-Informed Approach to Supporting Children and Young People" by  Cardiff and Vale University Health Board

​Children's misbehaviours often mask deeper needs. The PACE approach—Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy—guides caregivers to connect and heal. By embracing these principles, we foster trust and understanding, transforming challenges into opportunities for deeper connection.
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